Monday, January 30, 2006
Did YOU want to date ME?
Well, it’s official! I’ve been single for over three months! Almost as long as my dog’s been alive. That’s kind of fucked up. Maybe my dog is the reincarnation of my now defunct relationship?
In any case, since Paul and I took a break in October, I’ve been out on a handful of dates. Some of the guys I met through the internet, some through friends. But all were a bit lackluster and none that I wanted to have intimacies with. Ok…intimacies? How bout, none that I wanted to blow. There. That’s better.
I’ve had quite a few nice meals and at points, I’ve even had a few interesting conversations. I’ve realized that good conversation is a bit hard to come by in the real world - which I find to be a total shame. I’m a huge conversationalist and would prefer having a deep and meaningful talk over getting a dick in my ass – which is probably why I’ve still never had intercourse. Too bad too, cuz my ass is super tight and ready for it. Ha! Ha? Ha.
I’m a member of a couple different online dating services. Without sounding like a bitch, I do get “winked at” and “checked out” quite a bit. I would say that 99.9% of the guys are just not my type and that’s what makes this whole thing completely frustrating. I mean, I can sit at dinner and keep up my end of the dialogue for hours, but if there is no chemistry and I’m just not attracted to the guy, what’s the point? At the end dinner, it’s just me and them and their lips coming towards mine. And unfortunately, at my old age of 28, I’m not the one night stand kind of guy that I used to be.
Back in the day, I would blow just about anything, just to have some sort of experience when it came to men. It just felt right at the time. But now, I don’t want that. I want meaningful, mature, and intriguing relationships. I don’t want to kiss any more guys just because I feel like I have to. I feel this so strongly that when this one guy went to kiss me, I actually put my finger to his lips and quietly said “No thank you”. He didn’t think that was very cute and I ended up standing on the street by myself. Fair enough!
The other thing that has shocked my dating confidence is that the majority of guys I’ve met are looking for committed relationships almost immediately! I mean…come on! There is nothing more desperate that a guy asking you to commit to him after the first date. That scares me and definitely means that there will not be a second date, no matter how much back tracking he does. I’d like to at least know a BIT about the guy before we end up in a monogamous, no bullshit type of relationship. That’s only fair, right?
I’m just out of a 6 year relationship. Why WOULD I want to jump immediately into another one, especially after a 3 hour date?
What happened to chivalry? What happened to a guy asking another guy out on a date and having dinner and drinks be all there is? It’s like, I either need to blow them or allow them to slip a ring on my finger. And blowing them wouldn’t be so bad as long as I had even a smidge of attraction for them. I do believe that attraction can be learned once the personalities click and the comfort level is established, but that just doesn’t happen in the first 3 hours.
Today I feel a tad frustrated with the whole thing. I looked online this morning to see if I could find any “Speed Dating” events for gay men in my area. I was surprised to find quite a few. Only thing is, they don’t happen that often and I don’t know if I would be confident enough to attend something like that by myself. I’m not swimming in gay male friends over here, so it’s most likely the type of thing that I would have to do solo. I’m not good with solo. I am however good with Soul-Glo! Whatever. It rhymed.
So I guess…if you are a gay man in the NYMetro area and you would like to have dinner with me, please shoot me an email. And of course include a picture, cuz that’s just an automatic these days. I’m up for just about anything and I’m open minded and would prefer a casual and fun circumstance that’s going to remind me that dating can actually be fun.
If you want to set me up with a friend of yours, that’s even better. At least then the guy comes with a pedigree of sorts.
Here is what I look for in a guy:
1) Masculinity (this is a must. I just can’t get down with the femme fatales)
2) Taller, built bigger than me. (this is not a must, but it would go a long way in creating some chemistry on my part)
3) Be able to carry on a conversation. Please. God. Be able to. Carry on. A conversation.
4) Casual is the way to go. If you want to propose to me after dinner, we probably should not have dinner together to begin with.
5) This could be stretching it, but a sense of humor goes a LONG way in winning me over. If you make me laugh, I’ll probably make you cum.
6) Older than me is probably best. For a number of reasons.
Ok…that should be good and not TOO picky, right?
If it is, then I guess I’ll just continue doing what I’m doing and allow this post to slowly make it’s way to my archives – where I’ll look at it a year from now and laugh and laugh with my new boyfriend.
Well, it’s official! I’ve been single for over three months! Almost as long as my dog’s been alive. That’s kind of fucked up. Maybe my dog is the reincarnation of my now defunct relationship?
In any case, since Paul and I took a break in October, I’ve been out on a handful of dates. Some of the guys I met through the internet, some through friends. But all were a bit lackluster and none that I wanted to have intimacies with. Ok…intimacies? How bout, none that I wanted to blow. There. That’s better.
I’ve had quite a few nice meals and at points, I’ve even had a few interesting conversations. I’ve realized that good conversation is a bit hard to come by in the real world - which I find to be a total shame. I’m a huge conversationalist and would prefer having a deep and meaningful talk over getting a dick in my ass – which is probably why I’ve still never had intercourse. Too bad too, cuz my ass is super tight and ready for it. Ha! Ha? Ha.
I’m a member of a couple different online dating services. Without sounding like a bitch, I do get “winked at” and “checked out” quite a bit. I would say that 99.9% of the guys are just not my type and that’s what makes this whole thing completely frustrating. I mean, I can sit at dinner and keep up my end of the dialogue for hours, but if there is no chemistry and I’m just not attracted to the guy, what’s the point? At the end dinner, it’s just me and them and their lips coming towards mine. And unfortunately, at my old age of 28, I’m not the one night stand kind of guy that I used to be.
Back in the day, I would blow just about anything, just to have some sort of experience when it came to men. It just felt right at the time. But now, I don’t want that. I want meaningful, mature, and intriguing relationships. I don’t want to kiss any more guys just because I feel like I have to. I feel this so strongly that when this one guy went to kiss me, I actually put my finger to his lips and quietly said “No thank you”. He didn’t think that was very cute and I ended up standing on the street by myself. Fair enough!
The other thing that has shocked my dating confidence is that the majority of guys I’ve met are looking for committed relationships almost immediately! I mean…come on! There is nothing more desperate that a guy asking you to commit to him after the first date. That scares me and definitely means that there will not be a second date, no matter how much back tracking he does. I’d like to at least know a BIT about the guy before we end up in a monogamous, no bullshit type of relationship. That’s only fair, right?
I’m just out of a 6 year relationship. Why WOULD I want to jump immediately into another one, especially after a 3 hour date?
What happened to chivalry? What happened to a guy asking another guy out on a date and having dinner and drinks be all there is? It’s like, I either need to blow them or allow them to slip a ring on my finger. And blowing them wouldn’t be so bad as long as I had even a smidge of attraction for them. I do believe that attraction can be learned once the personalities click and the comfort level is established, but that just doesn’t happen in the first 3 hours.
Today I feel a tad frustrated with the whole thing. I looked online this morning to see if I could find any “Speed Dating” events for gay men in my area. I was surprised to find quite a few. Only thing is, they don’t happen that often and I don’t know if I would be confident enough to attend something like that by myself. I’m not swimming in gay male friends over here, so it’s most likely the type of thing that I would have to do solo. I’m not good with solo. I am however good with Soul-Glo! Whatever. It rhymed.
So I guess…if you are a gay man in the NYMetro area and you would like to have dinner with me, please shoot me an email. And of course include a picture, cuz that’s just an automatic these days. I’m up for just about anything and I’m open minded and would prefer a casual and fun circumstance that’s going to remind me that dating can actually be fun.
If you want to set me up with a friend of yours, that’s even better. At least then the guy comes with a pedigree of sorts.
Here is what I look for in a guy:
1) Masculinity (this is a must. I just can’t get down with the femme fatales)
2) Taller, built bigger than me. (this is not a must, but it would go a long way in creating some chemistry on my part)
3) Be able to carry on a conversation. Please. God. Be able to. Carry on. A conversation.
4) Casual is the way to go. If you want to propose to me after dinner, we probably should not have dinner together to begin with.
5) This could be stretching it, but a sense of humor goes a LONG way in winning me over. If you make me laugh, I’ll probably make you cum.
6) Older than me is probably best. For a number of reasons.
Ok…that should be good and not TOO picky, right?
If it is, then I guess I’ll just continue doing what I’m doing and allow this post to slowly make it’s way to my archives – where I’ll look at it a year from now and laugh and laugh with my new boyfriend.
